Everything we do as humans is an attempt to change the way we feel. Psychologists say all our activities are driven by our need to avoid pain and our desire to gain pleasure. They say it’s our emotions rather than our intellect that truly drives us.
Happiness, which is one of the most sought after emotional states by humans regardless of race, gender or religion, seems elusive in today’s world of rapid change that’s brought with it high levels of anxiety. However, there seem to be a few that have latched onto the bluebird of happiness, even in the midst of massive pain, disorientation and difficulties. What secrets have these happy ones discovered?
Firstly, they understand that they are the source of their emotions. They understand that everything on the outside was first created on the inside. So they orchestrate their happiness from within. They understand that they don’t have to wait for the right person or situation to come along before they can feel good. They understand that they don’t need any reason to be happy. They know that stuff cannot provide lasting happiness, so they don’t tie their happiness to toys, gadgets or fancy cars. They have come to appreciate the simple things of life and live in constant awe of nature.
If you live in a state of gratitude, if you cultivate the emotion of passion, if you cultivate the emotion of excitement, of love, of compassion, of drive, of hunger, of ambition, of appreciation, of grace, of humility… in those states, it won’t matter what happens in your job, it won’t matter what challenges come.
Secondly, people that latch onto the bluebird of happiness interpret events differently and use different words to describe their experiences. Researchers say the words we habitually choose affect how we communicate with ourselves and therefore what we experience. They found that people with an impoverished vocabulary live an impoverished emotional life; people with a rich vocabulary have a rich emotional life.
By simply changing your habitual vocabulary – the words you consistently use to describe the emotions of your life, you can instantaneously change how you think, how you feel, and how you live. You might say this is just semantics, what difference does it make to play with words? You see, if all you do is change the word, then the experience doesn’t change. But if using the word causes you break your own habitual emotional patterns, then everything changes.
Finally, happiness resides with people who can handle disappointment without losing their sense of wellbeing. It belongs to those who control their circumstances. It is also freedom from the negative children of fear, such as worry, low self esteem, envy, greed, resentment, prejudice, and hatred. Happiness comes to people who are aware of the positive power of life and love. Happiness is having values in balance. It is contentment with daily tasks. Happiness is more than a general feeling; It is a way of thinking.